The Thoughts of an Educated Young African American Male

Black Women, Enough is Enough!

My inaugural post on my blog (see very bottom post below) talked about women consenting to being touched in a club. Now, I will briefly discuss how such behavior is just foolish. The below You Tube video is my example. Why, in the world, would women rotate on grinding on a wguy? Why would they allow this behavior to be recorded in front of hundreds of people, singled out for the crowd to see?  I wonder if they think this behavior will make them marriage, girlfriend, or eployment material? I believe that this behavior makes them look like sluts, and further affirms the stereotypes that whites have of our culture.  Sadly, you can see whites in the crowd cheering more than most of the blacks in the crowd. Have you read Ralf Ellison’s Invisible Man (appogies for using Richard Wright in the original post. Heis, however, my favorite writer)? The video is all to similar to the book. Except, it is black women put on display for the enjoyment of others oppopsed to black men.

The sad part about this is that these women are put on a spot light. Singled out to see who can dance the most slutty. Interestingly, at the end of the clip the camera man pans the audience, and you can see that many black men and women in the audience are not comfortable being on tape. They do not want to be seen there. They do not want to be precieved to condone this behavior. The women do not have to get on stage. And comparing the bottom video with the top one, it is clear that SOME women will dance this way notwithstanding a man being there or not. This is not an excuse for men to act in any way, this is a plea from a black man, asking black women to not act and dance like sluts.


Ellison wrote the the embarrasment that blacks suffered by being put on display for the entertainment of others (whites particularly). Here, these women do not seem embarassed or ashamed. They seem proud to be there and happy to entertain the crowd. Is this the state of our black women in society? I want them to be ashamed. I want them not to act that way. I want them to be better. Am I asking too much?


It is clear from the video, however, that the men are not to touch the women. Based on my first post (see bottom post on page) these women did not consent to the touch! But, does that mean that they are any more respected? You be the judge.


One final observation. You look look to the side of the stage you will see that theNational Basketball Association (NBA) is a sponsor of this event. As if we didn’t already know they were in the business of exploiting our culture and community.


November 2, 2006 - Posted by | African American, Black women, club, college, HBCU, hip hop, Uncategorized, university


  1. These women and men are free to do what they want. Even if it means showing how little self-respect they have for themselves. It’s free will.

    Yes, I know it disgusts you but they are the children of a disgusting, dysfunctional, insane culture.

    Personally, I’m just waiting to see what happens next. Because I wonder, how can it get any worse?

    Comment by I am not Star Jones | November 3, 2006 | Reply

  2. You would think this would be common sense, but I guess not. This type of dancing is more of a plea for someone to validate their worth. I perceive this as no longer as having a good time, but rather trying to find somebody to support them. It’s quite pitiful, really.

    Comment by kompiled | November 3, 2006 | Reply

  3. I am a woman and I agree with the points you’re making. Sadly, because such behavior is so consistent with what you see on MTV, it’s become commonplace and accepted.

    Comment by gniqnah | November 4, 2006 | Reply

  4. 1. Ralph Ellison wrote Invisible Man, not Richard Wright.

    Comment by Black.Writer | November 17, 2006 | Reply

  5. True indeed. As you can tell by by post, I write fast with many errors. I hate the factual ones the most. The positive is that our community can call me out on misrepresenting an authors work! Who says blacks don’t read!

    Comment by youngblackman | December 1, 2006 | Reply

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